The Day Before

The year: 1977. I remember First Baptist Church of Seminole was having a church picnic when we arrived to find my Grandmother that Sunday evening. The plan was simple: Leave me with my grandmother for the week, while my parents enjoyed a week to themselves following a terrible year of Daddy being so sick with Myocarditis. He would finally return back to work the following Tuesday, July 5th. He never did.

I wonder now if he realized at all he would never see Miami or our home again. When was the last time he saw my sisters? What did he say? I remember being outside in the bright heat asking for just one more hug before they left Monday morning for Ocala. Daddy said, “Jackie. I will give you a hug when I get back.” Funny how promises not kept stay with us forever…

They drove our truck to Ocala, where they went antiquing and checked into a small inn. A couple owned the place and lived there as well. In the evening, my Aunt Charlyne met them for dinner and a dip in the pool. I see them in my memory now just as I saw them Tuesday morning around nine when Mother sat in Grandmother’s Florida Room and told me every detail. The sky twinkled with stars. The pool glowing against the dark night. Mother in her turquoise bikini, which always made her look more like an Amazon than a sex goddess. Daddy’s tan skin with the greying chest hair. I could see them floating around and laughing. Especially laughing. Aunt Charlyne has the most distinctive low hackle of them all.

After she left, Mother and Daddy went back to their room. Did they make love? I realize children usually try not to think of things, but I know from my own losses how unsettling it feels to look back and realize the last moment you lay with someone skin-to-skin. No one tells you it is going to be the last time. Would I have cherished it more if I had known? Would I have tried to cheat fate and find a sweeter moment to be the last? Who knows what happened for my parents, but that year of illness must have given birth to lonely consequences as the illness took them away from each other physically.

I know he went to the bathroom at some point and returned saying he did not feel well. Mother, being both a nurse and a wife having been through the mill, suggested they go to the hospital. “Jack, after all we have been through, I would feel more comfortable getting you checked out than not.” They dressed, went downstairs to the owners watching television, and they gave them directions to the hospital with best wishes for a speedy return. Daddy was in full cardiac arrest before they got out of the parking lot.

He wanted to drive, but Mother wisely thought this was a ridiculous idea. She also thought she should make a run for the ER, instead of waiting for an ambulance. Racing towards an unknown hospital in an unknown town, she forgot the directions as she leaned over and gave him rescue breaths. Using the truck’s CB, she cried out for help in getting to the hospital. The whole time she massaged his heart with her right hand as best she could.

I can see her with Daddy. Full of panic, yet calm and doing what had to be done. She is at a red light where there is a slight hill in-front of her. She turns the CB station again, unknowingly hitting the police band. A trooper responds. When she tells him where she is, the night sky becomes illuminated with flashing lights. He is just beyond the hill waiting for her, and tells her to run the light as soon as she can. She follows him all the way into the Emergency Room driveway.

This all happened late in the night. The evening shift of nurses, getting off at eleven, were just coming out of the hospital as they pulled up. Three nurses in total. One ran back for a gurney, while the other two took over giving Daddy CPR. One of those nurses stayed with Mother the whole night, even driving her to Aunt Charlyne’s at three o’clock in the morning. I know I think of her when I sit with a family during the wee hours of the morning paying back the universe her kindness in part.

At some point, a doctor came and told Mother what she already knew. Daddy had a massive heart attack. I know she called our pastor, Rev. Reed, in Miami and talked and prayed with he and his wife as she waited. Then, some time after two the doctor came again to say Daddy had another heart attack, they did all they could do, and how sorry he was, but “your husband is dead.”

At Aunt Charlyne’s, they talked and cried and decided to wait until Grandmother got up at six to call her. Why ruin her sleep? She would need her rest in the coming days. Over the years I have pondered my Grandmother going through her morning routine with a lively six year-old running around and knowing my world was about to change forever. How did she hide her tears? How did she feed me breakfast? How did she go for the mail? It came early those days. When it arrived, a package from Mother and Daddy held a little red toy. I ran through the house playing and singing, “My Daddy is going to hug me again when he gets back!” How did she not cry out in anguish?

This was all that happened before Mother arrived without Daddy, sat me down on the love-seat by the steps down to the Florida Room, and told me the story I based my inner movie on exactly what it looked like when Daddy died. This is what happened the day before my world tipped over and changed forever.